How to Find the right therapist: Your Guide to a successful Search

​When it comes to choosing a therapist, it's not a one-size-fits-all scenario.

The therapist-client relationship is a crucial factor in your healing journey, and finding the right fit can greatly impact the effectiveness of your therapy. 

Here are some of my top tips to help you navigate this important decision:

1. It’s OK to Shop Around

Considering the significance of this decision, I would advise taking the time to explore your options.

• Research therapists online: Ensure they have legitimate and relevant credentials
• Ask for recommendations from Facebook groups (this can be done anonymously)
• Ask for recommendations on your preferred social media platform
• Consult with your primary care physician for referrals

Most practitioners will have some kind of initial consultation (I call it a meet and greet) where you’ll have an opportunity with multiple therapists to get a feel for their approach and personality.

2. Ensure They Have the Specific Knowledge You Need

Therapists come from various backgrounds and specialties. Look for a therapist with expertise in the specific issues you want to address. Likewise, if you’ve been diagnosed with a specific condition, you’ll want to ensure you’re working with someone who has expertise suited to help you. 

Ask about their qualifications, experience, and training in areas relevant to your concerns, whether it's anxiety, depression, OCD, trauma, grief, or relationship problems.

3. Gauge How You Feel Around Them

This one is a bit more intuitive, but of the utmost importance.

Pay attention to your gut feeling during your initial meeting/consultation/meet and greet.

Do you feel comfortable, safe, and heard? While some nerves can be expected, if something feels off, it may be an early signal that the relationship isn't going to pan out. 

A competent therapist is crucial, but empathy and a good rapport are equally important.  Especially considering the intimate nature of the work you'll do together.

You should feel like you can trust and organically connect with them.

4. Develop a List of Questions

Prepare a list of questions to ask during your initial consultation. This can help you assess whether or not the therapist is a good fit for your needs and personality.

You may have many or few questions, but there are a handful of deeper, more philosophical questions I strongly encourage you to ask to help you arrive at a decision.

1. “What do you believe helps people heal?”
2. “Are you currently in, or do you take advantage of professional consultation”
3. “How would you describe your methodology?”

These questions should help gain a solid understanding of their philosophy and approach. Based on their answers, I would then suggest attempting to gauge whether or not their style seems like it would be helpful to you, even if it’s a partial guess.

Other questions might include:

• “What’s a typical session frequency?”
• “What’s the cost, and what payment options are available?”
• “Do you take insurance?” (if relevant)
• “Who, or what, are some of your influences within your field?”
• “What’s your stance on medication?” (if relevant)
• “Are you currently doing any continuing education?”
• “What continuing education has been impactful to you?”

As long as the questions are appropriate, relevant, and increase your ability to gauge whether or not they can help you — it’s better to ask than wonder.

4. Ensure the Setting Makes Sense for You

The setting in which you receive therapy is integral to the process. It's crucial to opt for a format that resonates with your preferences and comfort level.

Let's delve into the advantages and drawbacks of various therapy settings to empower you in making an educated choice.

In-Person Therapy:

Pros:

• Personal Connection: Face-to-face therapy cultivates a direct and tangible bond between you and your therapist.
• Body Language: Being physically present enables therapists to pick up on non-verbal cues, providing a more comprehensive understanding.
• Minimized Distractions: In a controlled setting, external disruptions are minimized, establishing a focused and dedicated space for healing.

Cons:

• Logistical Challenges: Scheduling and commuting to in-person sessions may pose difficulties, especially for those with busy schedules or limited mobility.
• Ease of Expression: Some individuals may have to put forth more effort to open up in a mutual location.

Virtual Therapy:

Pros:

• Convenience: Virtual therapy offers the flexibility to attend sessions from your home, reducing travel time and logistical hassles.
• Accessibility: It extends therapeutic options to individuals in remote locations or those with physical limitations.
• Comfortable Expression: Some may find it easier to express themselves in their own atmosphere, as opposed to a neutral site.

Cons:

• Technical Glitches: Connectivity issues or technology problems can disrupt the flow of virtual sessions, impacting the overall therapeutic experience.
• Limited Physical Presence: Without the in-person dynamic, therapists may miss certain non-verbal cues that could provide valuable information.

Hybrid Approach:

Pros:

• Flexibility: Combining in-person and virtual sessions provides a balanced approach, offering the benefits of both formats.
• Adaptability: A hybrid model allows for adjustments based on individual preferences, schedules, and unforeseen circumstances.

Cons:

• Coordination Challenges: Managing a hybrid approach requires effective communication and coordination between you and your therapist to ensure a seamless experience

 

• Potential for Imbalance or Inconsistency: Striking the right balance between in-person and virtual sessions may take time, and finding what works best for you might involve some trial and error.

When discussing therapy settings with your therapist, approach the conversation openly. Share your preferences, concerns, and any potential barriers you foresee. Your therapist's guidance can also steer you toward a setting that aligns with their therapeutic approach and enhances the overall effectiveness of your time together.

Finding the right therapist is a personal journey, and it's okay to take your time to make this important decision.

Remember that the therapist you choose should be someone you feel comfortable opening up to and collaborating with on your path to healing and personal growth.

The therapeutic relationship is a partnership, and the right therapist will support you in your journey towards improved mental health and well-being.

Keep these tips in mind as you embark on your search, and trust yourself to make the best choice for your unique needs.

If you happen to be curious what an initial consultation at True Form Counseling and Coaching looks like, check out this article about Meet and Greets.