Genuinely happy people learned early in their lives how to be content regardless of their circumstances.
Sincerely joyful people understand that basing one's happiness on the acquisition of material possessions and participation in exciting activities leads to increasing unhappiness and stress.
The wisdom shared from genuinely happy people is learning to find contentment in healthy relationships.
Do you want your kids to spend their lives searching for the pot-o'-gold at the end of the rainbow? Do you want them spinning their wheels, racing toward something that doesn't exist? If you care enough to read this, I'm sure that you don't!
As early in life as possible, start teaching them that happiness comes from having loving relationships with people…rather than things.
Because of the materialistic culture we live in, I think all of us are finding this a bigger challenge than ever. That's why it's more important than ever to do a few things:
• Spend loving fun family time with your kids
• Learn to set loving limits and say, “no” when they ask you for lots of stuff
• Eliminate guilt from your parenting experience & take really great care of yourselves
• Learn to share control by providing choices and options whenever possible.
Okay but what do you do if you have a strong-willed child? Did you know that children who love to be in control will perform all sorts of self-defeating and even self-destructive behaviors just to show that they're the boss?
When we try to hoard control from these kids, we end up losing it. It is likely you have met parents who constantly boss their kids around. Parents who do this often feel some small sense of control in the short-term. It is also easier to maintain control with younger children, but when they grow up, they will become more determined to show you they are in control. These parents will quickly lose control as their kids become passive aggressive or downright rebellious, particularly as they get older. Not to mention, when these children become young adults they will not be fun for you to be around.
Wiser parents give away all of the control they don't need so that they can maintain the control they do need. One way they do this is by giving lots of small choices when everything is going well. Particularly when you don’t care about the answer. Create choices so that you are satisfied with anything your children choose.
Want to learn more about how to:
Share control with choices
Set loving limits that help your children become healthy happy adults
Handle your children’s misbehaviors without breaking a sweat
Develop your children to have high self-confidence and genuine self-esteem
Create kind, caring, respectful and fun young adults that you enjoy being around.
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